Arvind Dichpally

“ Forgive ,” they say. “Even if they aren’t asking for it. Forgive. Do it for yourself.” -- I don't know who said it but it has pretty powerful impact on my life. It’s good advice given by many at times in my life. Forgiveness is a powerful act which doesn’t free the guilty party, but frees the victim from being held captive by the past actions of another. It doesn’t undo the event which caused that terrible pain. It doesn’t cause someone to forever forget. It simply creates the possibility for healing to begin. But what happens when you try to forgive and it doesn’t seem to work? You want to move on, but you can’t. You’re stuck. One of the great misconceptions about forgiveness is that it can happen in one dramatic act, nah it doesn’t, the ramification is so hard hitting at times. The thought is that we can have a powerful moment and forever be done with the situation. Some stand on a mountain, look up at the vast night sky, and make the decision to forgive the o

I am no poet neither have that potential, so can't be. But I've always wanted to write like one considering so many things that comes into my mind for last couple of years. If there's anything in the world I want to imitate (no, really) and be proud of it, it's the way some beautiful lyrical some writers imagine & write some of the most memorable line that leave impeccable for years & generation — a cascade of expression that sweeps you off your feet by its immense imaginative quotient, astounding authenticity and superb imagery — deliciously intense, joyously experimental, distinctively modern (they must be the only few in this generation to write in a language that speaks to the rock-addict, pop-loving generation). As i was driving today to my work happened to listen to Guru title song (even though heard several times earlier it was with my full concentration was listening to lyrics),it has four lines I am enamored of: " Jaage hain der tak hamen kuc

As i was watching some random animal channel came to know a Hermit crabs. As they grow, they keep shifting from one shell to another to fit them properly. This does not necessarily mean that the previous shell was unimportant or invaluable. It just means that they are moving on from something which was stunning their growth. Same is the case for humans. As we go through our lives, we meet people and have different experiences at different stages. Our social circle and encounters are something which constantly change. Those who were once pillars of strength and out solace may now be just social media acquaintances or strangers. An experience which made us feel secure just may be a bland memory now. This does not diminish the value of the relationship or the experience;they were what we needed during that phase in life. As we grow, we need to sometimes let go and reboot our social circle and consciousness, which i'm yet to learn. We need to let go of relationships and experienc

I love Windows!! As a child, i always used to hanker for the window sear during our family journeys, particularly by train. Whenever i choose to fly on occasion, my priority was getting a window seat and i remember few of those memories when i fought to sit by the window with my brothers. The window always lets the world in, no matter how small our own inner world is. Along with light, it invities views of the larger world, reminding us how small we are. And for me, a window is also the perfect metaphor for transparency. When we choose to love in spaces without windows, we lose out on perspective. We get trapped in out own vision, which grows weaker by the day. Sometimes, we may have a window, which we closed. All we need to do, in that case, is to simply open the window.